Thoughts from a beautiful moment with my pony today...

How long have you been attracting the wrong people into your life? From men, to friends, to potential clients? You will know what I mean if you’ve found yourself wondering ‘how is this happening again?’, or ‘another one?’ or ‘what’s wrong with me?’ You know what you want, you know you deserve better and yet still the uncommitted, the self-centred and the less than ideal keep crossing your path - many staying for way longer than you would choose in hindsight…

You’ve likely found yourself laying awake at night wondering ‘How did I get here?’, sitting across the cafe table wishing you were somewhere else, or dropping your head to your desk having come off yet another wasted hour long plus ‘sales’ call.

The good news is there is nothing wrong with you. You’re human. You’ve lived your life, created your successes to date, got through some experiences you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy and you’ve learned to survive.

And it’s worked, right? It’s got you to where you are today. And that’s an alright kind of place isn’t it? But it’s not where you want to be though is it?

You’re craving more. Deeper connection, more fulfilment, feeling on purpose and thriving. You want to be more, do more, have more and you don’t want to keep grinding at it as hard as you have been, to get nowhere.

As I lay in my horse’s field this afternoon, on a picnic blanket, under the shade of a tree my often aloof, strong willed, demanding black Oldenburg wondered his way down to my spot, away from his field mate and away from his hay. After checking that the picnic blanket wasn’t about to jump off of the floor and eat him, Reuben settled himself beside me, cocked his back left leg, nestled his head and neck over me and proceeded to doze softly. His softness matching mine. His peacefulness matching mine.

‘So what’s that go to do with attracting the wrong people into my life?’, I hear you ask.

Not many years ago the scene I describe above would not have happened. If I wanted quiet time with my pony (he’s not a pony, he’s huge but I call him a pony), I would have had to have selected the right time, when he was already quietly dosing somewhere, and match his energy. Horses are so perceptive, if I didn’t match his energy, he would feel mine, wake from his slumber and casually, in only a way a horse can, walk off leaving me stranded in my own thoughts of how I could do better.

The scene today by the picnic blanket is usual for us now. Through the years of developing myself and building a life I am fully aligned in, being in each other’s spaces is most often, peaceful, serene and relaxing.

Because I am.

So how can my horse's attitude toward me help you?

You see it’s about like, attracting like. Who are you showing up as? What are you projecting out to the world? What old behaviour and thought patterns from your past are still showing up today, getting in the way of you achieving everything you want? Do you truly believe you are good enough, worthy enough, deserving enough of all that you dream of?

Because you are!

The truth is, even as successful as you are, and with as much work as you have done on you and your life, if you are not where you want to be there are beliefs and behaviours from your past that are holding you back, and it’s time to let them go once and for all.
 

This realisation came to me, not because my horse didn’t want to be around me, though that was most certainly a symptom of what was going on, but when after years of showing up trying to be who I thought everyone else wanted me to be, I finally realised that if I was going to be, do and have everything I wanted in my life, it was up to me and me alone to make those changes. I decided there and then to take control of my life, and my future, and do whatever it took to step out of my old life and way of being, and into a new, more aligned, happier, and more successful life.

Looking back, there were four major shifts that took place after that decision was made.

The first was following my instincts and booked a trip by myself to an Ayahuasca retreat centre in the middle of the Peruvian Amazon Rainforest. This experience is full of the most amazing stories and it was life changing on many levels. The stand out takeaway though was the deepest connection to the strength I have inside. A guttural understanding that I am whole and worthy. That I am capable of anything I put my heart to. It was one of the most profound experiences of my life.

Soon after returning from Peru I made the decision to follow a lifelong dream to live in France. Three months later, I packed up my car and my little dog, and drove the 12 hour journey to a tiny Hamlet in the South West, on the border of Aquitaine and the Midi Pyrenees. Here I felt I found home. The region, the people, the fresh air, the peace, they were all part of what allowed me to feel safe, in my own space, on my own, for the first time in my life. Not only did I find what felt like home externally, but internally too, as I spent days at a time voluntarily excluded from the rest of the world, venturing outside only to walk my dog, or collect groceries. I meditated, wrote and slept. I slept a lot. I connected to parts of me I had long since forgotten. Found joys in the simplest of activities and began to breathe as me again.

During this time in France, I found my calling; doing what I do now. When the awareness of what I was blessed to be here on this planet to do came upon me, a world of opportunity opened up for me. Two months after arriving in France, I packed everything back up - knowing that the next time I shipped out this way, it would be to settle permanently in the area. I drove back to the UK, settled my dog with my Mum and flew out the next day to California. You see I had found two mentors during my time in France; Kyle Cease and Tony Robbins, and they were both holding events and trainings in California. Once again I followed my instincts, and I never turned back. I discovered new ways of expressing myself, I achieved a greater understanding of who I was, what I was here to do and how, by having that deeper understanding of me, I could help others. I learned to be strong in my vulnerability, seek the truth in the emotions I was feeling, and built a level of love, appreciation and compassion for myself that I hadn’t even realised was missing.

Finally, back in the UK, some months later, I became more deeply aware of the connection between the animal psychology I had submerged myself in over the past 10 years, and the human psychology that had found its way to me. I became more consciously active in learning, appreciating and understanding how our human minds work and found myself being fascinated by the intricacies of why we do what we do, and how to change things for ourselves. I learned a deeper, greater understanding and appreciation for others too. I learned to forgive, to let go of past perceived wrong doings, and allowed myself, once and for all to be free, to be me.

These shifts in my life have brought me to a place where I have the most fulfilling, purposeful and aligned vocation, where I attract and work with the most amazing women. So much so that many have become personal friends along the way. My relationship with my family is more open and easier than it has ever been, and I attracted the most wonderfully supportive, loving and connected partnership with the man I will spend the rest of my life with.

It all started with a level of vulnerability in trusting my intuition to take the leaps I needed too. To move out of three decades of misalignment, confusion, sheer hope and frustration, and into the most successful years of my life; emotionally, financially, physically and spiritually.

And now that I am aligned with who I am and who I show up as, Reuben, my horse, matches my energy instead of the other way around. I show up as the human he can connect with, trust and want to be with. I'm attracting that peace because it’s who I am now.

For me, the years these transformations took allowed me to embody them, learn the intricacies and complexities and distill what really made the difference, and that’s what I teach through my longer, six and twelve month programmes. In the 6 week intensive that I take my high-achieving, professional female clients through though, I bring them from unaligned, frustrated, confused and overwhelmed in their lives, to finding and connecting to their true identity, enabling them then to confidently and unapologetically express their true selves out to the world, so that they themselves can attract all of the right people, places and things into their lives. This is what we cover.
Becoming secure in your external and internal worlds. Emotionally, Physically and spiritually connecting all that is desired on the outside, with all that is there for you on the inside.
Utilising hindsight and the power of the mind to connect you to all of who you are. Forgiving and forgetting all that no longer serves you and moving you to a place of real love, respect and appreciation for all that you are
Recreating the conscious and unconscious stories behind the behaviours and beliefs that have been holding you back from being all that you are here to be, and attracting those into your life that are truly meant for you.
Ceasing criticism and building compassion, first for yourself and then for others in your life now, and from your past. Moving you out of a sense of wrongdoing and into a space of empowerment and ease.

Through these steps my clients find and connect with their true identity, recognise when they are out of alignment which allows them to quickly settle back at their true north. They develop the confidence to express themselves fully and unapologetically out to the world, which enables them to attract all of the right people, places and things into their life.

As I mentioned, it all starts with a level of vulnerability. Yes doing it alone can work and it can take a lot of time and money - for me that was the best part of ten years all told, and well in to £six figures - but by holding their hand out and taking the help that resonates with, and speaks to their heart, my clients work through these foundation stones, for the rest of their life, in just six weeks.

If you’re a high-achieving, professional woman who knows that though you are already successful in the eyes of others, you feel you are falling short of your true potential, and if you want to finally step into all that you are and all you here for, then the 8-week intensive may be a fit for you. If you feel called and if the above resonates, simply send me a private message and let’s check it’s right for you.